So now you have mustered up the courage to approach the really attractive girl that you like.
Now, what do you say and do?
First of all, relax… take a deep breath and relax.
Remember that nervous and anxious mentality seeps through our body language and women pick subtle cues like that very easily.
Also, realize one thing… she is probably nervous as well.
And a lot of the time this is what causes the weird awkward silences. She is most probably anxiously waiting for you to say or do something to break the tension of awkward silence.
Did you get that, “waiting for you to do something”…
Heck, if she wasn’t interested in you in the slightest the conversation would have ended long before there was an opportunity to be an awkward silence.
So my point is that you 1st need to relax and not let your mind worry about silly things like awkward silences. We’ll deal with those in a second. And if all else fails there’s Premium Outcall Service that will surely help you in connecting with attractive girls.
For now, just focus on initiating a conversation.
Don’t try to be a world-class pickup artist and try to get her # in 30 seconds flat so you can leave.
If you have to leave in 5 minutes then fine, end the conversation in 5 minutes and then get her #. If you don’t have a few minutes to spare do that you can engage her in conversation then save your vibe for another occasion.
I hope you are beginning to get the message here, what will make the difference between you and every other guy that day who has tried to hit on her is that you ENGAGED her in conversation. You didn’t just try to hit on her.
So how do you engage her in conversation?
Now that’s the question that should be constantly on your mind you start talking to her and there are two ways of engaging her into a conversation:
- Paying Attention
Initially, this is the most important thing to do and what it means is that you take notice of her world and engage her on that level.
Let’s say for example you approach this attractive girl at a coffee shop. Don’t take it for granted that it’s just a coincidence that she is in the coffee shop. The fact that she is in the coffee shop means her immediate attention is probably centered around acquire as much caffeine as humanly possible.
So you could start the conversation with a simple “So what’s good to drink here?”.
Not what you were expecting but the truth of the matter is that as long as you engage her on her immediate level/focus, it really doesn’t matter what you say but more importantly how you say it.
Ask your question confidently, purposeful, and relaxed with a charming smile.
Also look her in her eyes to show her your undivided attention and focus.
Now you probably won’t get a definite response from your initial question so why not follow up with “Oh, Cool and so what’s your favorite?”
Notice that your body language shows that you are paying attention to her and not you have changed the conversation to what she likes. Paying even more attention to her.
Now at this point, I’ll warn you that you are not meant to be paying too much attention to her. Don’t be checking her out, facing your body towards her, blankly staring into her eyes and/or not blinking.
The subtle message you want to communicate here is wanting but not needing.
You want to know more about her… that’s why you are paying attention to her but you don’t need her… and you could just as easily walk away in a heartbeat.
- Building Rapport
The question of what she likes achieves two main objectives.
It gets her talking about herself. Now it’s a little-known secret that the most interesting topic of conversation to a person is themselves and in most cases, it is refreshing to have someone allow you to talk about yourself. Also, note that this is the best way to avoid awkward silences. i.e. by simply getting the other person to talk about themselves.
It gives you a chance to find an anchor you can use to build rapport. Now as she begins to open up to you, you will now have the opportunity to try and find something that you both have in common (a sport you both like, a place you like visiting, the food you both love) and build on that connection. Build a sense of commonality is a great way to overcome the “I just met you” defenses that she has up.
To learn how to engage her in conversation, be cool and charming through the attention you give her, and build rapport quickly with her.
From this point onwards, getting her number and initiating a second meeting will be easier than you could ever imagine.